The most insidious form of spiritual abuse doesn't demand, "Obey me." It whispers, "Your hurt reveals what God needs to heal IN YOU first."

For those I mentor, this is confusing and perilous. They are rebuilding faith broken by manipulation and are desperate for a clear, strong witness—one that says the gospel is sufficient

Many, including myself, have found it difficult to pray or to seek support from others for fear of being misunderstood. After I left this belief system, I cried out to God for help in this area, with the hope of one day guiding others—especially women—into a more authentic prayer life. What He gave me was profound: the gift of biblical lament.

You may have heard the term "spiritual abuse" being thrown around some lately, but don't know exactly what to look for.