Teacher of Good Things: Titus 2 Woman - Part 2

Last Monday, we began looking at the third stage, the Titus 2 Woman, in Titus 2:3-5.

Titus 2 Woman

You can refresh on that article here. In this passage, Paul states that the older women were to be teaching what is good.

This is an interesting phrase, as it is used one time in Scripture, and this is it.

It is one single compound Greek work: kalodidaskalos. It means teaching in such a

way so as to shape the will of the one being taught by the content of what is taught.

It refers to a master or teacher. The older woman, is, by example and instruction, to

be a teacher of good and beneficial things that are very much lacking in our time

now. This is definitely a unique calling, opportunity, and legacy that can be passed down from generation to generation.

For when for the time ye ought to be teachers, ye have need that one teach you again which be the first principles of the oracles of God; and are become such as have need of milk, and not of strong meat. For every one that useth milk is unskilfull in the word righteousness: for he is a babe. 14But strong meat belongeth to them that are of full age, even those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil.

Hebrews 5:12-14

Now, here is the list of things that older women are to disciple younger women in,

beginning in verse 4, “…and so train the young women to love their husbands and

children…” They are to encourage (encourage/train here is another word for sober), or admonish them, to put into action these things:

How to Love their Husbands Biblically

1. How to love their husbands – philanders is an adjective that literally

describes a woman who is fond of a man and is derived from the word

“philos” meaning a friend or companion or loving friend and anger meaning

a husband;

• the implication here is that women are not to be fond of other men-only

their own husbands

• The verse here implies that the young wife is to exhibit a love that is not

based on the husband’s worthiness but instead on God’s instructions for

the order of the home

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

Proverbs 31:11-12

*I will be going over marriage and the order of the home in greater detail in another post. However, Scriptures regarding order of the home specifically are Ephesians 5:21-33,

Colossians 3:18-25, and Proverbs 31:10-31.

How to Love their Children Biblically

2. How to love their children – philoteknos is an adjective derived from a

combination of philos meaning a friend and teknon meaning a child.

The “how” part of loving your children doesn’t always come naturally, especially

when they try your patience with their disobedience. You are sinning against

God and your children if you slap them around or call them horrible names.

The Greek word here also implies the love of friendship. While you are always your children’s mother, as they grow older you should also cultivate a friendship with them. I find this happening now with my own daughter, as she will be 20 in March.

Remember, your husband and children are your first ministry. It starts with

you in your home. Biblical homemaking is making your home and family

life top priority under God. I have to be transparent here. I have not always been the best homemaker, and sometimes my priorities get out of line. The important thing is to be able to see when this happens, stop, and reorder your priorities appropriately. However, if you are married without children, single, or widowed, it is definitely needed for women to do ministry work in the body of Christ. It is definitely found biblically!

Ok, let’s move on to verse 5, “…to be self-controlled, pure, working at

home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God

may not be reviled.”

Older women are to train younger women how to:

How to be Self-Controlled (Titus 2 Program Tease!)

3. Be self-controlled – as a new creation, you have the mind of Christ!

This means we will, in theory, have right thinking and right living. This

means having the ability to have self-restraint and not giving into

temptations. A woman of God will be in control of her mind and priorities.

What happens when a woman doesn’t exude self-control in her home? Let’s

see what the Word of God says, shall we?

A fool's wrath is presently known: but a prudent man covereth shame.

Proverbs 12:16

Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.

Proverbs 14:1

A foolish son is the calamity of his father: and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping.

Proverbs 19:13

It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.

Proverbs 21:9

It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.

Proverbs 21:19

Here is what the Word of God has to say about a virtuous woman:

She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

Proverbs 31:26-28

How to be Pure

4. To be pure – this primarily refers to moral, sexual purity in the marriage,

and modesty

In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with braided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.

1 Timothy 2:9-10

This is about heart posture. The Roman empire during that time had women that dressed very gaudy. Specifically in Ephesus where Timothy was ministering. Ephesus was the “banking” and “financial” Capitol of the Roman Empire. Imagine New York City today with the fashion clothes, and stilettos, long with all the jewelry from Tiffiany’s (this was an addition from my husband here.) Paul is making the point that Godliness is to be set apart. I believe part of this is understanding that our actions affect others around us. For instance, as

a woman, I won’t dress a specific way because I don’t want to cause another

man to stumble. I also want to make sure my witness for the Lord is right.

These are just things we should think about as women in the body of Christ.

Again, we don’t answer for other people’s actions, but we do answer for our

own.

Wiersbe: “He did not forbid the use of nice clothing or ornaments. He

cautioned balance and propriety, with the emphasis on modesty and holy

character.”

How to be HomeMakers

5. To be workers at home - one devoted to home duties or a homemaker

At the same time they also learn to be idle, as they go around from house to house; and not merely idle, but also gossips and busybodies, talking about things not proper to mention.

1 Timothy 5:13

6. To be kind – this means to be good-natured or kind-hearted in character

Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

Ephesians 4:31-32

Paul is admonishing the church of Ephesus to kind to one another and put all

of the things that are bad away. In that same way, as women, we should be

kind.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

1 Corinthians 13:4

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.

Galatians 5:22-24

What it Means to be Submissive to their Husbands

7. To be subject to their own husbands – the verb being used here is

hupotasso; this word talks about two people who are absolutely equal in

God’s eyes. The wife makes a choice to place herself as an equal underneath

another equal, her husband, in order that there can be order and function in

the family.

The purpose is to meet the design that God has ordered. Hupotasso, the Greek word for submission here, was a military term describing soldiers lining up under their authority and also referred to the arrangement of military implements on a battlefield in such a

way as to facilitate effective warfare. Submission is a biblical principle that is applicable to all relationships in Christ and is voluntary in nature for a wife, yet commanded.

The last part of verse 5 is important – “…so that the Word of God is not reviled.”

In other words, don’t discredit God’s Word! Don’t show it to be UNWORTHY of

belief through your actions. When we don’t follow through with these things, that

is exactly what we are showing the watching world. The purpose of these traits to

to exalt the Word of God and share the Gospel through our actions.

But have renounced the hidden things of dishonesty, not walking in craftiness, nor handling the word of God deceitfully; but by manifestation of the truth commending ourselves to every man's conscience in the sight of God.

2 Corinthians 4:2

Do all things without murmurings and disputings: That ye may be blameless and harmless, the sons of God, without rebuke, in the midst of a crooked and perverse nation, among whom ye shine as lights in the world; Holding forth the word of life; that I may rejoice in the day of Christ, that I have not run in vain, neither laboured in vain.

Philippians 2:14-16

Remember ladies…at the end of the day why we do what we do. In order to live in

an ungodly world as a Godly woman, we have to glorify God and reflect His

goodness in everything we do. At the end of the day, when we get to see Jesus and

spend an eternity with Him, Jesus promised various rewards for those who

faithfully serve Him on earth.

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